Was jeffrey dahmer actually.gay

SuddenlyDahmer

2019.08.25 03:11 havingfun89 SuddenlyDahmer

When things suddenly turn into things Jeffrey Dahmer did in the past while he was a serial, or many possible killing intentions.
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2015.10.23 09:26 creedofwheat Riding the line between creepy and love...

"If both people are into each other, then a big romantic gesture works: Dobler, but if one person isn't into the other, the same gesture comes off serial-killer crazy: Dahmer."
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2017.12.06 08:25 A community of people interested in true crime cases

A place where people from the TCC on Tumblr can come to escape the toxicity of the people who made the TCC the shitshow it became.
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2023.02.02 22:05 GigaGrug Military Recruitment Psyop Tiktok Girl update

This has been covered on War Is Boring but here are more details + the e-girl discord leaks.
Earlier this week, Haylie Lujan, haylujan on Instagram, lunchboxlujan on Tiktok, a request for people to make up rumors about her, on both platforms.
https://lensdump.com/i/TjzLQQ
https://lensdump.com/i/TjzD7x
She also started promoting an Instagram page called sikeops which was counting down to a reveal date. She had recently attended SHOT show, a trade show in Las Vegas, and posed in an erotic photoshoot for Weapon Outfitters. Haylie has no experience in the tactical or firearms industry, although she is considered by many to be an attractive female.
Shortly afterwards, the user crimes.man on Instagram posted comments that there was an unreleased sex tape or images, related to an encounter at a SHOT show afterparty. Many users began to theorize that this countdown was a reveal to the launch of an OnlyFans page, and that she knew she had intimate images circulating, and was going to monetize herself before they were widely spread.
https://lensdump.com/i/Tjz5To
That night, as the sikeops account ended the countdown and revealed the launch of a psyops themed patch and clothing line, Haylie direct messaged that individual, who replied to her with an image of Hunter Biden smoking crack, followed by a Jeffrey Dahmer meme and images and video of a Trijicon ACOG being mutilated with a dremel tool.
At this time, many Instagram users were complaining on posts by sikeops and saying that they never got any 'merch' that they paid for in 2022 from an earlier patch or shirt sale Haylie orchestrated.
https://lensdump.com/i/TjeZdK
Following that, Haylie posted the DMexchange to her story in the form of a video narration and screenshots of the DMs, claiming to have 'rizzed up' crimes.man and that 'like all incels' he immediately melted and 'tried to show off a scope' to her.
(An Instagram Story is an in-app feature that allows users to post photos or videos that automatically disappear within 24 hours.)
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSLNC
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSYW5
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSuLT
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSDGb
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSflr
She continued on, claiming that because of the markings on the scope, it's owner could be directly identified. She then added a screenshot of a text message from Ron, from Weapon Outfitters, where Ron said that the scope was clearly the craftsmanship of a CNC operator with the username wop.dillo, and that he had been fired from FN for a negligent discharge.
She then proceeded to identify and post the personal information of wop.dillo in her story, and claimed in a video posted to this story that she was 'untrollable' and that because of her military intelligence resources, no one could hide from her, including crimes.man who she stated was an angry virgin who lived in a basement with his grandmother.
A few hours later, she deleted these story posts, although screenshots and recordings are circulating. wop.dillo threatened legal action against Weapon Outfitters. The following day, Weapon Outfitters posted an apology as a standard image post on both their Instagram and Facebook. Haylie also copied this apology in her regular, non-story Instagram posts. Comments were disabled in all of these posts. Although these posts got thousands of likes, they were removed later.
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSFXF
https://lensdump.com/i/TjScr3
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSX40
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSbND
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSGaQ
https://lensdump.com/i/TjeWrx
https://lensdump.com/i/Tjei4H
https://lensdump.com/i/TjejP1
Around the same time, crimes.man posted his side of the DMs, which showed the details of her opening a conversation by insulting him, and his reply in the form of a Jeffrey Dahmer meme from the recent film, Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story (TV Mini Series 2022), encouraging her to "hang out and watch a movie," followed by the mutilation of the ACOG.
In these revealed DMs, she also claimed to be associated with the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms, and Explosives, and that he was going to be visited by them.
The next day, crimes.man's story featured a screen recording of an extensive audio apology sent to him via DM from Lujan. In it, she states that she couldn't post it to her own story because it wouldn't be fair to the brands who paid money for highlights there, if he was promoted for free. He concluded this by saying the matter was closed and asked 'for no one to harass or contact anyone involved'.
https://files.catbox.moe/oglodw.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/i0y6nk.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/xb07l1.mp4
Later last night, leaks of Lujan making extremely racist comments in a Discord server were combined with clips from her apology, and posted on various darkweb discussion boards, along with some images alleging cosmetic surgery and pictures of her without freckles, alleging that her freckles are artificial.
https://files.catbox.moe/keq0hb.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/jch25q.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/x85p2v.mp4
https://lensdump.com/i/TjeIic
Crimes Man is widely known in private tactical/firearms industry circles to be the personal troll account of 'Tactical Shit' owner TJ Kirgin. Faceless is a known associate.
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2023.02.02 22:03 GigaGrug Military Recruitment Pysop Egirl Tiktok update

Earlier this week, Haylie Lujan, haylujan on Instagram, lunchboxlujan on Tiktok, a request for people to make up rumors about her, on both platforms.
https://lensdump.com/i/TjzLQQ
https://lensdump.com/i/TjzD7x
She also started promoting an Instagram page called sikeops which was counting down to a reveal date. She had recently attended SHOT show, a trade show in Las Vegas, and posed in an erotic photoshoot for Weapon Outfitters. Haylie has no experience in the tactical or firearms industry, although she is considered by many to be an attractive female.
Shortly afterwards, the user crimes.man on Instagram posted comments that there was an unreleased sex tape or images, related to an encounter at a SHOT show afterparty. Many users began to theorize that this countdown was a reveal to the launch of an OnlyFans page, and that she knew she had intimate images circulating, and was going to monetize herself before they were widely spread.
https://lensdump.com/i/Tjz5To
That night, as the sikeops account ended the countdown and revealed the launch of a psyops themed patch and clothing line, Haylie direct messaged that individual, who replied to her with an image of Hunter Biden smoking crack, followed by a Jeffrey Dahmer meme and images and video of a Trijicon ACOG being mutilated with a dremel tool.
At this time, many Instagram users were complaining on posts by sikeops and saying that they never got any 'merch' that they paid for in 2022 from an earlier patch or shirt sale Haylie orchestrated.
https://lensdump.com/i/TjeZdK
Following that, Haylie posted the DMexchange to her story in the form of a video narration and screenshots of the DMs, claiming to have 'rizzed up' crimes.man and that 'like all incels' he immediately melted and 'tried to show off a scope' to her.
(An Instagram Story is an in-app feature that allows users to post photos or videos that automatically disappear within 24 hours.)
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSLNC
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSYW5
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSuLT
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSDGb
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSflr
She continued on, claiming that because of the markings on the scope, it's owner could be directly identified. She then added a screenshot of a text message from Ron, from Weapon Outfitters, where Ron said that the scope was clearly the craftsmanship of a CNC operator with the username wop.dillo, and that he had been fired from FN for a negligent discharge.
She then proceeded to identify and post the personal information of wop.dillo in her story, and claimed in a video posted to this story that she was 'untrollable' and that because of her military intelligence resources, no one could hide from her, including crimes.man who she stated was an angry virgin who lived in a basement with his grandmother.
A few hours later, she deleted these story posts, although screenshots and recordings are circulating. wop.dillo threatened legal action against Weapon Outfitters. The following day, Weapon Outfitters posted an apology as a standard image post on both their Instagram and Facebook. Haylie also copied this apology in her regular, non-story Instagram posts. Comments were disabled in all of these posts. Although these posts got thousands of likes, they were removed later.
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSFXF
https://lensdump.com/i/TjScr3
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSX40
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSbND
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSGaQ
https://lensdump.com/i/TjeWrx
https://lensdump.com/i/Tjei4H
https://lensdump.com/i/TjejP1
Around the same time, crimes.man posted his side of the DMs, which showed the details of her opening a conversation by insulting him, and his reply in the form of a Jeffrey Dahmer meme from the recent film, Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story (TV Mini Series 2022), encouraging her to "hang out and watch a movie," followed by the mutilation of the ACOG.
In these revealed DMs, she also claimed to be associated with the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms, and Explosives, and that he was going to be visited by them.
The next day, crimes.man's story featured a screen recording of an extensive audio apology sent to him via DM from Lujan. In it, she states that she couldn't post it to her own story because it wouldn't be fair to the brands who paid money for highlights there, if he was promoted for free. He concluded this by saying the matter was closed and asked 'for no one to harass or contact anyone involved'.
https://files.catbox.moe/oglodw.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/i0y6nk.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/xb07l1.mp4
Later last night, leaks of Lujan making extremely racist comments in a Discord server were combined with clips from her apology, and posted on various darkweb discussion boards, along with some images alleging cosmetic surgery and pictures of her without freckles, alleging that her freckles are artificial.
https://files.catbox.moe/keq0hb.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/jch25q.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/x85p2v.mp4 https://lensdump.com/i/TjeIic
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2023.02.02 22:02 GigaGrug Military Recruitment Pysop EGirl Update

Earlier this week, Haylie Lujan, haylujan on Instagram, lunchboxlujan on Tiktok, a request for people to make up rumors about her, on both platforms.
https://lensdump.com/i/TjzLQQ
https://lensdump.com/i/TjzD7x
She also started promoting an Instagram page called sikeops which was counting down to a reveal date. She had recently attended SHOT show, a trade show in Las Vegas, and posed in an erotic photoshoot for Weapon Outfitters. Haylie has no experience in the tactical or firearms industry, although she is considered by many to be an attractive female.
Shortly afterwards, the user crimes.man on Instagram posted comments that there was an unreleased sex tape or images, related to an encounter at a SHOT show afterparty. Many users began to theorize that this countdown was a reveal to the launch of an OnlyFans page, and that she knew she had intimate images circulating, and was going to monetize herself before they were widely spread.
https://lensdump.com/i/Tjz5To
That night, as the sikeops account ended the countdown and revealed the launch of a psyops themed patch and clothing line, Haylie direct messaged that individual, who replied to her with an image of Hunter Biden smoking crack, followed by a Jeffrey Dahmer meme and images and video of a Trijicon ACOG being mutilated with a dremel tool.
At this time, many Instagram users were complaining on posts by sikeops and saying that they never got any 'merch' that they paid for in 2022 from an earlier patch or shirt sale Haylie orchestrated.
https://lensdump.com/i/TjeZdK
Following that, Haylie posted the DMexchange to her story in the form of a video narration and screenshots of the DMs, claiming to have 'rizzed up' crimes.man and that 'like all incels' he immediately melted and 'tried to show off a scope' to her.
(An Instagram Story is an in-app feature that allows users to post photos or videos that automatically disappear within 24 hours.)
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSLNC
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSYW5
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSuLT
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSDGb
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSflr
She continued on, claiming that because of the markings on the scope, it's owner could be directly identified. She then added a screenshot of a text message from Ron, from Weapon Outfitters, where Ron said that the scope was clearly the craftsmanship of a CNC operator with the username wop.dillo, and that he had been fired from FN for a negligent discharge.
She then proceeded to identify and post the personal information of wop.dillo in her story, and claimed in a video posted to this story that she was 'untrollable' and that because of her military intelligence resources, no one could hide from her, including crimes.man who she stated was an angry virgin who lived in a basement with his grandmother.
A few hours later, she deleted these story posts, although screenshots and recordings are circulating. wop.dillo threatened legal action against Weapon Outfitters. The following day, Weapon Outfitters posted an apology as a standard image post on both their Instagram and Facebook. Haylie also copied this apology in her regular, non-story Instagram posts. Comments were disabled in all of these posts. Although these posts got thousands of likes, they were removed later.
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSFXF
https://lensdump.com/i/TjScr3
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSX40
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSbND
https://lensdump.com/i/TjSGaQ
https://lensdump.com/i/TjeWrx
https://lensdump.com/i/Tjei4H
https://lensdump.com/i/TjejP1
Around the same time, crimes.man posted his side of the DMs, which showed the details of her opening a conversation by insulting him, and his reply in the form of a Jeffrey Dahmer meme from the recent film, Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story (TV Mini Series 2022), encouraging her to "hang out and watch a movie," followed by the mutilation of the ACOG.
In these revealed DMs, she also claimed to be associated with the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms, and Explosives, and that he was going to be visited by them.
The next day, crimes.man's story featured a screen recording of an extensive audio apology sent to him via DM from Lujan. In it, she states that she couldn't post it to her own story because it wouldn't be fair to the brands who paid money for highlights there, if he was promoted for free. He concluded this by saying the matter was closed and asked 'for no one to harass or contact anyone involved'.
https://files.catbox.moe/oglodw.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/i0y6nk.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/xb07l1.mp4 Later last night, leaks of Lujan making extremely racist comments in a Discord server were combined with clips from her apology, and posted on various darkweb discussion boards, along with some images alleging cosmetic surgery and pictures of her without freckles, alleging that her freckles are artificial.
https://files.catbox.moe/keq0hb.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/jch25q.mp4 https://files.catbox.moe/x85p2v.mp4 https://lensdump.com/i/TjeIic
Crimes Man is widely known in private tactical/firearms industry circles to be the personal troll account of 'Tactical Shit' owner TJ Kirgin.
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2023.02.02 21:53 PocketGoblix Why do people doubt my detransition?

Hi everyone. I’d like to give you some background information first and then the process that happened afterwards. Before you comment an obvious response of “most detransitioners are actually just trans people pressured by society to revert” please just hear the context of my post.
I was 14 when the Covid pandemic hit and I was entering my freshman year of high school. This was the time in which Tiktok was gaining some serious popularity, but I refused to download it. Instead, I watched YouTube compilations of Tiktoks (I know, so quirky) and quickly became obsessed with the LGBTQ+ compilations.
I was specifically drawn into the cottagecore/goblincore/agender sort of themed videos and began to convince myself I was agender and pansexual.
This went on for the next year and in my freshman summer school (electives, not for retaking a class) I came out to my class as using they/them pronouns and went by the name Sawyer. I had also just cut my hair super, super short and began dressing masculinely.
I was instantly ostracized by the entire class but somehow I was too aloof to really care. I had been struggling with depression and anxiety for a hot minute but I’d never really cared. I had the online community of people who I could relate to, and besides, I would be leaving high school eventually.
Sophomore year rolls around and I begin to seriously convince myself I’m a trans male. I justified this in EVERY way possible, to the point where if I went to a therapist I would instantly be diagnosed with gender dysphoria. In my opinion, I /was/ trans in that time. I still went by Sawyer, used he/him pronouns, dressed masculinely, wanted to be a husband/son/boyfriend, wanted to be the male role model, wanted too surgery, and hated my origins.
I became so scared to come out as trans that I was sent to the mental hospital for suicidal thoughts. I came out to my parents over the hospital phone.
The moment I got home, I wasn’t trans anymore. I simply felt 100% like the female I was and didn’t care to be any of those things anymore. I can’t explain it, but those 7 days away from my phone made me “cis” again.
It’s been a year and I still feel the same way. I have no desire to transition to male, use other pronouns, or otherwise identify as anything but female.
I still want top surgery and I’m still pansexual, but otherwise it’s like I was never trans in the first place. And yet, I qualified for it 100%.
I think this shows how much teenagers cling to approval from peers and trends. There is no mistaking that lgbtq+ became a trend during that time - every single “gay” student I know is now back to dating as straight couples. I’ve never seen so many detransitioner posts on here either. I’m glad it got the attention it needed but it’s clear that there were ulterior motives for many.
I’ve also begun to feel very disconnected from the trans community. After watching Matt Walsh’s “What is a Woman” documentary, I have no ability to explain trans people’s logic. There simply IS no logic, or no logic that people can agree on.
I’m perfectly supportive of doing what you want and going by what you want, but overall the whole idea of changing “gender” is so controversial and it shouldn’t be that complicated of a subject.
When I was a trans male, I never thought I was actually a male, a male trapped in a female body, that I was supposed to be born male, or that I had a male brain. And scientifically speaking, none of those things would’ve been right anyways. It’s all about having a preference.
I think detrans people deserve a lot more respect than they are getting because not all of us are transphobic. We’re allowed to have our own beliefs about our gender identity, regardless if they support yours.
If I say “pink should be a genderless color” then I’m not transphobic simply because some trans woman wears pink to feel feminine.
I also dislike it when people assume I have internalized transphobia simply because I don’t nod my head to every statement that comes out of trans people’s mouths. Sometimes they say some really out of pocket stuff, like “Trans women should be able to buy pads/tampons” (first of all, they’re romanticizing periods, and second of all, they don’t need them and are unnecessarily taking them from afab people)
Some things are just a “it doesn’t affect me so I don’t care”. Like pronouns and style and name choice.
I guess I just want reassurement that I’m not transphobic. Ironically also on an online basis. But I’d rather be educated than not.
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2023.02.02 21:53 Historical_You_704 Spencer in season 4 episode 5

I was rewatching PLL and was really taken aback by how snobby and rude Spencer is in this episode? This was when Spencer and Emily went to this college to find a phone number but Emily was actually interested in applying. Throughout the episode Spencer kept making comments like "ew who would wanna go to this Podunk school?" just because it's not an Ivy league. And then she got mad at Emily for "flirting" with a college admissions advisor and not telling him she was gay as if gay people have to go around announcing their sexuality 24/7 lol.
On the other hand, I get that she was partially just distracted because she was so caught up in finding that number. What do you guys think?
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2023.02.02 21:53 Forsaken_Thoughts LGBTQIA Representation SO MUCH BETTER than other popular series - S1 E3

It feels so good to watch a show after so many "woke" series, that actually represents LGBTQIA well, rather than scrutinizing or forceful with "woke" messages that don't work to advocate - or worse makes the community look toxic, hypocritical and arrogant. (ie Batwoman having a lesbian character that embodies toxic masculine traits - as if a woman gets a free pass to be a pig.)
Representation is not a condescending PSA; its not a gender war, (or worse, making members feel angry, victimized and vengeful,) nor evoking guilt in others who may not understand or be discriminatory. True representation in storytelling is being immersed in the experiences organically of that particular group, seeing the human in them which naturally breaks prejudices and bad stereotypes.
My dad and I are big Last of Us fans as we played it together, and he was so moved by Bill and Frank that he started crying and apologized again for how he had been homophobic as a young adult. He has even made a gay friend at work and tells me hilarious stories with his new buddy 😭🤘❤
For once in a long time, being gay was depicted casually, as a trait to Bill & Frank, rather than a PSA about homosexuality. It was a very moving love story, not just a gay story.
We see how exactly the same we all are in love, no matter who we love and that is 1000x more powerful than watching an LQBTQIA character mock, take jabs at, and ridicule others spitefully. Lashing out through cinema is just more fuel to the flame; this storytelling was a refreshing summer rain shower.
Thats how true acceptance begins, and how prejudices end.
I am so happy for how the creators are caring to capture moments in the video game, and are not worried about long episodes - in fact they adjust the time of episodes to make sure the story is impactful and pushing just right. They are so passionate, so respectful of the fans - are fans themselves and know the source material (unlike the Witcher that dumped Henry because he kept pointing out that the story is getting bad because they didnt even know much source material 😑😑😑.)
This is the difference between mere writers and actual storytellers. Don't tell us how we need to think or treat others, tell us a story, teach us through experience and emotion - make us forget reality and fall into this world for that 30 minutes or 1.5 hours.
Good job HBO, good recovery after Velma (my lord) lol.
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2023.02.02 21:09 chihuahua_man Episode 3 of The Last of Us thoughts

So i just watched episode 3 and wow, i’m speechless.
Let me start with something that will propably make some people angry with me. I’m not a homophobe by any means, but at the same time i usually dislike watching any physical affection shown between guys. It is just, i don’t know how to really describe it as english is not my first language. I’m not disgusted by it is just not comfortable to watch this kind of stuff.
So with that in mind i will just say that i have never cried watching any love story ever and tonight was first time i did. And it was not just a little sob, it was full on crying with my wife. Like you know, kind of an ugly cry, right?
Not only this but i never felt uncomfortable watching Bill and Frank kiss, hug, touch eachother i actually felt they were… cute i guess? Maybe it is because it wasn’t some crazy, bombastic love it was more grounded, i think that is why it did strike me so hard. For me in most shows i saw gay couples usually feel… i don’t know, forced? Maybe not even that but somehow i can never really get into their Stories, but here i was sold right of the bat.
I would also want to appreciate both actors, especially Nick because his acting sold it so well. The way he was a bit awkward, shy, not sure what to do was just beautiful.
I know it propably is nothing interesting but i just wanted to share my thoughts. Also sorry if some of my thoughts are unclear, as i said english is not my first language and sometimes it is hard to describe certain feelings.
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2023.02.02 20:46 Savings-Meeting-5563 So this was the trans who was on the debate show of no jumper, my rule is this. As a man being attracted to this is not automatically gay. Our brain is programmed to think its a women, what makes it gay is actually knowing shes transgender and still making a move.? am i wrong?

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2023.02.02 20:45 _paintingflowers Finished Shameless

Okay so after binge-watching the show for nearly a month, the ending is what I expected (I mean I already knew what was gonna happen) I like the aspect of it being an open ending! But I hated how bleak it felt for so many of the characters. The writing really hit the wall from season 8 onwards like holyshit. I hated how the plotlines didn't stick long enough or make sense. It felt like a sitcom with different shit happening every episode.

Let's start with Fiona: I loved her and hated her but then I loved her again. Girly has been through so much raising kids when she was a kid! living with a dad who's a drunk and a narcissist and a mom that's hardly even around! she always put her family first, yes she fucked up a lot and went off the deep end but it makes sense, she's always had to be the grown-up so her doing reckless shit and "blowing off some steam" wasn't out of character. However, from season 7 onwards the show got weird and it didn't feel like it was about a family anymore. The moment she got her own business and all the loans, I get why she was trying to move past being "south side" and wanting to make something of herself after so long of sacrificing her teens and twenties of taking care of her family but the writing was not it, she was too impulsive- more than usual and did things on a whim. Her relationship fuck ups were frustrating to watch but again it sorta made sense but man did some of her romantic interests SUCKED- starting with Ford! he was boring and I just didn't care for him at all. Also, this was around the time I feel like everyone including Fiona forgot that she had people under her care aka Liam! I don't understand how she just decided to move to an apartment and not take her younger sibling??? It was obvious the others were doing their own shit. Her entire downfall in season 9 was hard to watch considering it showed the parallels of her and Frank- I feel so 50/50 about this personally cause I like the whole 'fall from grace but get up again' but at the same time, Fiona was treated like shit by everyone and that includes the writers who seemed to have really hated her. I still dont get why the other siblings were so annoyed at her. I kinda get why Lip was because he himself was an alcoholic and he was understanding at the start but he got annoyed at things that wasnt even her fault like getting his sponsee drunk- yeah she didn't know that. I thought the whole thing of people ganging up on her just came outta nowhere.
Anyways, her leaving was mostly to do with the actress leaving the show and I think they should've done something more but at the same time her goodbye episode was nice and it did make me tear up. She was the glue of the family and it was obvious from the moment she moved out of her own apartment that everything was sorta everywhere, the family didn't feel like a unit anymore. To me, she ended up with Steve/Jimmy! they eventually met up down south and live happily and dangerously ever after lmao cause we know she loved a little chaos.

Lip: Oh man. Where do I start with this guy. I actually loved Lip, he was one of my favorite characters cause of how complex he was but don't get me wrong he still annoyed the shit outta me throughout the show. The dude clearly had issues like duh lol but, Season 4 Lip was my fave because you can see this overachieving guy struggle in Uni which I personally related to- he wasn't the genius anymore and he actually had to try hard to get the grades he wanted and no matter how many times he said he didn't care about it you can tell he liked being there! on top of all of that, he took care of Liam after the whole overdose thing and those were some of my fave seasons they did a great job at the character development... that is till he slept with that professor. He became reckless and fell back into his old habits even more so, considering he was doing great. Helping out Youens (loved those two and their relationship! his death still hurts), going on that trip with Amanda and her family, and bonding with her dad! (was she crazy? yes, was the leaking of the photo shitty? also yes BUT Lip was never good at picking them). His downfall during that was tbh one of my favorite moments lmao because yes it sucks seeing him getting thrown out of the dorms and then actually getting kicked out of the university but I expected him to climb back up! he went to AA, started getting his act together, helped out Brad and tried with Youens, got a job, and got with Sierra who I liked a lot but then it fell apart cause of course (I get why because it wasn't the right time) but then the whole Xan thing???? like dude you have a little brother who you can be taking care of! I get the writers wanted to show that he wants to be a dad, since the whole Karen thing and we saw that he can be a good one BUT they could've shown that through him taking care of Liam and not adding a random character. I think Xan was cute but come on and then after that, we saw the great Tami.
Now, I posted I hated Tami but as the seasons went along I felt very meh about her. She's fine but if she had left I wouldn't have cared, I do like how she stood up for herself and told Lip how it was because he did need to be put down a peg or two however at times the relationship felt too highschool? like at the start when they didn't even know what the relationship was! and they barely seemed to know each other that well- how do you have a kid and not know things about each other like Tami having a thing with her teacher? Just a rushed relationship and one that I think wouldn't last long cause it gives the vibe of "staying cause of the kids". To me, the tamiette family was one of the worse things that happened to Lip lmao they were more of an obstacle than anything. I would've preferred either him and Tami just being co-parents or Tami not being there at all, still making him a dad, and with all these failed job opportunities he would eventually go back to community college! cause one of the main issues I had is that they forgot Lip was supposed to be a genius so why is he stuck being a mechanic and then delivering food?
All he did was make such rash decisions outta nowhere and not have a second to think about what he was doing. he became so irritating in the last couple of seasons, especially with the whole house thing! (which idk why he wanted to sell cause towards the end even Tami said she was fine with moving in with him) he's smart and he's shown to be resourceful (in the last epi he fixed some douchebag's computer for the trading money stuff) but besides that, we barely see it in the last few seasons, we see him just dig a deeper grave, and yeah sure it may come off as 'realistic' but this is a tv show. What's so bad about having a character sorta make something of themselves after all the shit that's happened? Lip was the one characters i truly rooted for so its sad to see how it goes for him.
Ian: I loved Ian, and always have and I think how they handled his bipolar was rather well although I would've liked to see the depressive episodes more than his mania ones because as someone who's been around people who have bipolar, it's not just one more than the other, it can be unpredictable and a mix. In the episode when he ran away with Monica, I loved how they showed that yes he got bipolar from her genes but they weren't the same people, he still went back to his family which Monica only did when she needed something. Ian had a love for his family. But towards the later half of the seasons, his weird dislike for Fiona was irritating and the whole he gay jesus thing... sucked lmao it was funny for the first couple of episodes but it got so old so fast, I know they were trying to show that he's in a manic state but it was too dragged out. Im glad he got to say goodbye to Fiona and that he was one of the last ones she did see. He and Mickey ended up together and moving away with nice, it was good to see him finally stable a little, I would've liked to see those two in more serious moments towards the end cause Gallavich was played to be more comedic considering they had a quiet intense relationship but id say he got one of the better endings and it was cute to see him and mickey talk about being dads in the end.

Debbie: Uhhh....its debbie. I loved her as a kid in the start! she was cute and so witty but after the whole pregnancy stuff- ooof talk about character assassination. I couldn't stand her and she's a terrible mother. In the last seasons I was sorta bored of her cause it was the same thing again and again and you can see the parallels with Monica so obviously she became destructive although I did stand by her when Lip wanted to sell the house cause he cant do that lmao there are people living there and its not under his name like dude stop. Otherwise, yeah...her random romances in the last season especially gave me whiplash- it was one after the other goddamn I feel sorry for franny and she'll definitely be taken away by CPS. Its weird how her character went because once she got her welding job I thought she would finally pull it together but nope she ends up with some crazy psychotic bitch who threatened to stab her daughter the first second they met. ...yeah very Monica-esque.

Carl: This little shithead lmao I honestly thought he would be some psycho killer at the end but he turned out to be pretty well rounded and it was nice to see his development throughout the series. He went from being a kid that experiments on animals, to whatever the fuck 'white boy carl' was lmao (even though it was funny as hell to watch) to someone who's really sweet and wants to help people. I do like how they showed him being disillusioned by the whole police system, it was one of the later political plots that didn't feel like pandering in a 'hey! look at us talk about these points! look at us!' unlike the earlier part of the series that was more subtle and nuanced. I loved him giving parking tickets to rich assholes lol but I don't think he'll be a cop much longer, I see him being a counselor for troubled teens or something along that line. (then again he does wanna buy that bar so?? who knows)

Liam: Sweet summer child you deserved so much better. It didn't help that for the majority of the show Liam was a baby but I still think that he should've gone with Fiona because half the time the writers had no idea what to do with him oh and the fact that she was his GUARDIAN! either that or have him centered more to Lip's storylines as I mentioned earlier, and replace the whole Xan thing with Liam instead. He's the youngest brother but towards the end, no one cares and it felt really weird cause earlier they still cared for the young siblings like carl and Debbie when they were Liam's age. Saying this, I do like his moments with Frank, especially in the end when Frank is going through dementia. It was really sad to see him looking around for Frank and not knowing what happened. In my version of the ending, he's going off to boarding school.

Frank: He's frank lmao and he reminds me too much of my dad so I have too many feelings about it lol so I'm gonna keep it short and say he was entertaining. Bill Macy is a phenomenal actor and there were some real moments where I felt sorry for Frank but it still didn't excuse all the fucked up shit he did and how much of an asshole he truly was. His end I think was perfect and the entirety of the last season was so depressing to watch but it was the one plotline that was well done.
Kev and V: I loved these two! they actually had a very good ending, the only issue I had was the whole kev sleeping with V's mom- yeah I would like to forget that but it seems like the writers did too since they barely mention Kev's son towards the end. But yeah these two pretty much stayed my faves throughout the series.
fuck this was long lmao sorry but it's an 11 season show and there's so much more to talk about but I had a blast watching this, it had some really good moments, and all the characters no matter how flawed were great. The cast was amazing but I really do wish the last few seasons were better, when I rewatch this ill probably stick to the first 7.
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2023.02.02 20:39 Worried-Apricot-298 Feel like I'm losing a big part of who I am

(Didn't know what flair to add, "vent" makes it sound more negative than it is but I have no idea how else to categorise this lol)
I've always been GNC, long before I ever knew I was gay. I've never really presented any other way, but recently I've started to become interested in presenting a bit more "feminine". I'm considering growing my hair out on one side (not both bc I love having it shaved, I doubt I'll ever fully grow it out). I've also started wearing a very faint brown eyeshadow every now and again, just to darken my eye lid... and I actually like it.
I know I should just wear whatever I want and not care about labels and that this may sound dumb, but I feel like I'm losing my butchness. The butch community is the first community I have ever actually related to and felt part of. All of my gendepresentation related experiences can be easily explained by the label "butch". Embracing that label was the first time I ever felt proud and happy to be female, so the idea that I could lose that is getting me down a bit. I suppose I don't really like change in general though and so much has changed for me recently, not just this.
I just wanted to get that off my chest. Btw thank you to this sub, its mods and everyone that participates in it. I'm incredibly grateful to have access to a space that has helped me a great deal in feeling less alone over the years.
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2023.02.02 20:23 rodog22 Episode 2 was honestly bad

I think my thoughts on the first episode found here may have been overly critical. I would say in hindsight it was a solid B rather than C- but this episode was pretty bad. Nothing ever really happened. It seemed like a solid 5 to 10 minutes of the run time was dedicated to the characters having visions and wet dreams most of which at least now have no apparent meaning. A white horse randomly breaking down a door? Really?
Sarah Michelle Geller's interrogation scenes were cut so short it begs the question why they even bothered. We have no idea what she actually asked them so the scenes literally told us nothing. In fact that was a theme for this episode. Nothing of consequence happened. Even after meeting Luna and Harlan, Harlan pointedly refuses to explain anything he knows about being a werewolf and pressures Luna into doing the same. This is bullshit. While Harlan's motives for staying quiet make some sense it is absurd to think that Luna and the other characters would just let something like that go. I would have refused to even get out of his car until he explained to me what the hell was going on if I was Everett. On that note the twins continue to be wasted screen time. Harlan again is just being gay and horny for no apparent reason and that's his scene for the episode while Luna is being his sister and nothing else.
We learned relatively little this episode outside of Everett's mother being physically abusive. It's implied that the twin's father is a rabid werewolf that they are aware is out there in a throwaway line and that the man on the phone is in fact the werewolf tricking those he has biten into leaving public spaces so he can target them. But that's about it. This episode could have been 15 minutes long (no exaggeration) without cutting anything relevant to the plot or character development. They only have 8 episodes and this one was completely wasted.
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2023.02.02 19:50 Spicypondwater Complaints about show and episode 3 (not homophobic)

Let me just start off by saying that the best part of episode three was fact the gay love story. And as a whole I LOVE the show and I especially love the games, every part.
I have some overall complaints about the writing of the show, and I will admit that my complaints come from kind of a radical perspective as I am a writer, and I focus a lot on inclusive writing styles as well as perspectives from the writers themselves. I know reddit it is really not gonna like this, but I’m gonna shoot my shot here just in case anyone does feel the same as I do.
I’m a woman so writing deep interesting and meaningful female, POC and LGBTQ characters are really important to me and are a special interest.
Tess: My first complaint is the worst trope that Tess ultimately fell into. Let’s talk about who Tess is. She is strong. She is independent. She is awesome and comes in clutch to save Joel’s life multiple times in the game. She doesn’t need traumatic horrible things to happen to her for her to be awesome at least nothing more than what happened to the rest of the world. The trope I think she ultimately falls into best is rape as a backstory. Obviously, it’s not Tessa’s backstory it’s her ultimate ending. But I know people argue that there is no sexual element to the way that she dies but I have to strongly disagree based on every form of media assalt that ever exist, as well as how actual assault really exist. Tess is frozen in full panic as a man creature comes forward. She cannot do anything she’s compelled to stay completely still as he approaches her and kisses her while the creature shoves, tendrils or tentacles down into her throat to take over her body. I will bet you that this kind of viscerally disturbing of a scene will not happen to any of the men in the show moving forward. Sure there will be plenty of violent, brutal death but none of them will feel the way that Tess,s did.
The other issue with Tess, with show Tess, is I think pacing mostly because we just didn’t get to see enough of her to really feel like her death was a strong and moving moment for the characters unless you’ve played the game. She’s just another one dimensional Scify bad ass end of the world female character, another really tired trope.
The reason this is a red flag for me, is just how common and apparent this failure of a female character is in media constantly. One dimensional and of course, abused in a sort of visually visceral way. I would have loved to see her blow up the whole building without having to share a disgusting kiss, and I do not like the way that Craig Mazin explained his thoughts on that kiss either.
Female characters ultimately deserve better and more similar treatment to male characters. I promise you we will not see something like that. Happened to the male characters. And if I’m wrong, I will be happy to eat my words. I will leave this post up so you can bully me relentlessly for being wrong.
Episode 3:
In terms of beautifully written, love stories, this is great, even ignoring that is gay. So that’s just genuinely not my complaint with it.
My first issue was how tonally inconsistent the show has felt so far. I’m really trying to grasp the feeling that they’re going for in trying to match it with the game that I played and I am coming up a little bit confused.
The first episode was so true to the game, that I really thought that was going to be an over arcing part of the series. But it does feel now like they want a softer more Emmy like storytelling version. Ultimately that’s OK it’s not gonna bother me.
The decision to rewrite bills character was an interesting one. He’s not very in-depth in the game, but I will say there are things I like about his character in game, that I think make him really interesting. But to describe that I have to describe what I really love about the game storytelling tactics.
The story: What I love about the way the game decides to tell The story is the bitter sweet reality of being two people in the world were so many people used to exist and are simply gone, but we get these little clips of their stories. Reminded throughout the game that even though it’s just us so many people have such important roles to play in the grand scheme of the world and the end of the world. But also, some people had no impact they simply loved and then we’re gone. And what I love about the game is the kind of archaeological element. We’re only these two people which means we can only see the world through these two people, but it doesn’t mean we’re deprived of understanding the world. Being able to just kind of discover the stories is what was really interesting to me. The fact that they could make me attached to people I’ve never seen and never met through a simple letter really change the game for me on storytelling entirely.
So how does this impact Bills storyline? What I think was interesting about bill is how much of a trope he actually fell into, and as we slowly learn more about him, we realize he’s a lot more complicated, and that the reason that he is this Way comes down to very sad and tragic story. He was one of the few that ultimately found a partner at the end of the world only for him to come to the same thing everyone else has to. And the tragic ending of Frank really changed and adjusted who Bill was.
That being said the show Bill could have been really interesting, but he was actually fully irrelevant as this character to the rest of the plot and especially the main characters. He helps them accomplish nothing and he is just a moment taken out of the show to explore one of those “letters” but in full detail. The only way they tied this character into the main storyline is by having him write a letter which I do think was a cute nod to the original storytelling. I Have a really clear way in my mind that I think would’ve conveyed a lot of the same way that the game does storytelling and converted it beautifully into the episode, but it really feels like they just chose to drop that element of the game and chose to write a beautifully written Emmy award winning filler episode.
I think this part is when people are gonna get genuinely mad.I don’t trust the Writers discretion when it comes to attempting to piss off a part of their audience, rather than playing into with her audience really wants. I didn’t like the quote from Peter Hoar that said, sometimes you just have to trick people into watching a love scenes. And I didn’t like Craig Mazin take on the death kiss with Tess. I don’t fully trust the writers of the show to explore the characters as honestly as truthfully, as they made them in the games and it feels like they are attempting to make a show worthy of an Emmy by pulling in some really classic tactics to do that. That begins to feel Disney woke, which I despise as someone who wants to see good representation.
Anyway, this is too long for anyone to read, but those are my thoughts. I’m super excited for the rest of the show.
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2023.02.02 19:39 Nickidewbear CMV: Even God gives the prominent (e.g., people in Hollywood and Washington, D.C.) a pass no matter how evil they are

I hope that everybody who has the privilege of fame and is abusing it is brought down by God swiftly and soon. There is a part of me, nonetheless, that believes that even God seems to love celebrities more just because He exalted them in the first place. I wish that I could believe that for some, fame is actually a curse or a punishment from God, and that it truly is their reward in full. I do not see fame for them in that way, and every celebrity who claims that he or she hates fame reminds me of the Bible verse, “It is good for nothing,” cries the buyer; [b]ut when he has gone his way, then he boasts.”
I have struggled with this for a long time, and I see that celebrities didn’t—in general—get treated as regular people during the pandemic. It seems like more and more, even God is exalting the exalted and not punishing them for their sins (no matter if they as far as to pretend to fear Him for their own gain) and humbling the humble (no matter how long and diligently they have served Him, and then they have to pay for their and everybody else’s mistakes while the exalted get a pass as well as have others blamed for what they did).
A couple of examples of this:
1) None of the people who were confirmed to be associated with Jeffrey Epstein have been punished really or at all in the least (maybe except for John Glenn, although certainly not in this life). Similarly, none of the people who are prominent politicians and have stolen classified documents (including one who was confirmed by a victim as well as Jeffrey Epstein‘s pilot to have been on a certain list) have been punished, where as the common civil servant would be sitting in prison for life.
2) If Bill Cosby were not Bill Cosby, the oral and secret agreement that he made with the previous prosecutor never would’ve been honored. In most cases, written agreements always take precedence over written agreements. Yet, the Scriptures say that God does not respect persons based on status.
3) Even people who claim to be apathetic about celebrities or even hate celebrities know deep in their heart that they would be very starstruck if they met one, and it is God who hardens and softens hearts.
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2023.02.02 19:36 SparklySpencer June 19, 2014: My Resignation Letter

Questions and comments welcome.
If needed, I can link you to the information listed, I had a references section!
The required bits were there, but this was the fun part to write imo 😉
Censure: Surely, God’s church would be ahead of society, not behind. – President Hinckley claimed, “The church does not become involved in politics.” (Larry King Live) If spending large sums of money to support anti-gay and anti-civil rights legislation is not “getting involved in politics,” then what is? Only after being bombarded by a media storms and torrential outcries of thousands if not millions, the tone changed. Sure, the church is staying current with public relations, but that only goes to show how uninspired and unprepared the church actually is. This generates a huge lack of confidence in the general authorities who are supposedly the mortal mouthpieces of God.
While we are on the topic, are we not all children of the same God? Are we not all created in his perfect image? Did we fight and win a war in heaven condoning the gift of agency? Why then would the church get involved politically in something that limits or removes agency from a group of persons? Regardless of the way the church or its members personally feel about homosexuality, the church’s $25 Million US Dollar endorsement for Proposition 8 (in California) sounds eerily similar to “Satan’s plan” because it removes a choice to be happily married and enjoy the same legal benefits at heterosexuals.
The issue of agency aside, who, honestly, would choose to be gay (especially gay in an LDS environment)? No one would choose that, but a tiger cannot change its strips can it? Tigers are tigers as much as people are people or as much as someone who is homosexual cannot, and will never be, heterosexual (vice versa). By asking homosexual members to live alone for their entire life is like asking them to irreparably harm their psyche and sense of self. Does the church honestly think that God in his infinite wisdom and knowledge, would willingly create humans to live a life of complete misery? “Men are that they might have joy.” (2Nephi 2:25) – Not misery.
Article of Faith 12 states: “We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law.” (Smith, Article of Faith 12) Unfortunately, the church’s actions prove that they would rather influence the laws, or financially dissuade any that they find disagreeable. These types of actions only deprive humans of their natural rights, which are protected by the United States Bill of Rights.
In addition, the very mention of homosexuality cannot be found in the three uniquely Mormon religious cannon: the Book of Mormon, Doctrine & Covenants (also known as D&C), or the Pearl of Great Price. That coupled with Article of Faith 8: “We believe the Bible to be the word of God as far as it is translated correctly; we also believe the Book of Mormon to be the word of God.” (Smith, Article of Faith 8) As well as Article of Faith 9: “We believe all that God has revealed, all that He does now reveal, and we believe that He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the Kingdom of God.” (Smith, Article of Faith 9) Lead me to believe that the current view of “homosexual activity”, marriage, or homosexuality in general, may not have a much merit as the church believes it has.
It has been my experience; spiritually the Mormon Church is dead. The meetings do not nourish my spirit, but rather pile on the guilt. The lesson manuals are uniformly boring and written at a very rudimentary level. They do not address the spiritual and intellectual needs of lifelong members – there is no depth, it is all superficial. It is as if the current church believes that the glory of God is strict obedience to outdated paradigms.
Jesus spent his valuable time in the midst of the sinners, the sick, the oppressed, and the downtrodden. He regularly condemned the religious hypocrites of the time; casting out moneychangers, and Pharisees. Christ’s example was one of understanding and compassion; “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone” (John 8:7) … “Neither do I condemn you, go and sin no more” (John 8:11). In essence, he taught that church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum of saints. Why then are so many members unwelcoming and judgmental of those who are different, or those that suffer with addictions, or those with unpleasing appearances, etc.
Are the saints not taught, “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” (Matthew 7:1-2). Yet, there are so many unfeeling hearts within the ward culture. Other times, there have been wards that try their hardest to be welcoming, and caring. However, my LDS ward experience (having moved over 16 times in Utah) has generally been cold. – A house of hypocrites that save face, but utterly fail at practicing what they preach.
The word of God is in essence eternal truth, right? Why then do so many policies, procedures, and publications change almost entirely (including the church's stance on marriage)? – Perhaps they change so often because they were outdated designs of fallible mortals. The leaders / general authority are just human after all, which contrasts darkly to the picture painted by so many members, bishops, etc. However, I am not looking for perfection, that is a mortal impossibility, but I am looking for genuine people who can admit when they are / were wrong.
Financially, how can the church afford a $1.5 Billion US Dollar mall in Salt Lake City, while there are adults, and children (our brothers and sisters) dying of hunger and thirst everywhere in the world? I believe in generating income, being resourceful, reliable, and responsible (meaning I generally support having additional sources of income), but I am appalled that the church would fund something so “worldly”.
The churches lack of transparency with its income and spending habits is also disconcerting. Sure, we often see that humanitarian aid is sent around the world when disaster strikes; I have even contributed to that noble cause myself, but how much could the church be doing? – Especially with $1,500,000,000 US Dollars. How about the homeless, starving, hungry, and destitute without families anywhere from the United States to Uruguay? What about the single parent family that is about to lose their home to foreclosure? – there are so many people in need, and so many worthy projects to pursue (clean drinking water in third world countries, community gardens, etc.).
I am not lacking a faith in God, just confidence in the ability of the LDS church to adequately convey God’s will toward humankind. I know the church has been good influence in the world, and that the church tries to do what it thinks is best; however, I do not believe that the local leaders or the general authorities have the best interests of God’s children at heart, and that saddens me greatly.
Brigham Young, Second President of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, said, “I am more afraid that this people have so much confidence in their leaders that they will not inquire for themselves of God whether they are led by him. I am fearful they settle down in a state of blind self security. Let every man and woman know, by the whispering of the Spirit of God to themselves, whether their leaders are walking in the path the Lord dictates, or not.” (Discourses of Brigham Young)
It is impossible to express the depth of my feeling, the pain, joy, sadness, love, and so many other emotions I have felt while being a member of the church. I do not regret my upbringing or my decision to leave. I realize God infinitely understands and loves all his children, regardless of circumstance -- " My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand." (John 10:27-28).
I too sadly share Diane Bass’ sentiment: “My favorite scripture has always been, ‘God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.’ (Psalm 46:1) I truly have found refuge in my Lord but I have to sadly tell you that I have not found refuge in my church.” (Bass). I just wish that the church was more like God, or followed Jesus’ example a little more closely. I would not be honest with my soul if I stayed a member, for I have been in God’s divine presence and understand more completely than I once did.
With Heavy Heart,
Reditor SparklySpencer
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2023.02.02 19:18 mejomonster Anyone ever surprised how much people get mad about a partner living with another gender/having other gender friends?

I'm bi, a lot of my close friends are bi. Whether I live with a boy friend, a girl friend, a nonbinary friend like me, there's always the fact I could be potentially attracted to someone since I like all genders. No matter who I'm friends with there's always that potential in theory. I'm not actually attracted to everyone I know, just like a straight man isn't attracted to every woman in the world or a gay woman isn't attracted to every woman she knows.
I always am shocked when people ask for advice when their partner is friends with someone of another gender, or when they're mad their partner is living with another gender. I get that they're worried about cheating because their partner is attracted to the gender they're a friend/roommate with. But bisexual people could potentially be attracted to any gender, and that doesn't mean we will cheat with any friend or roommate we have. Being bi does NOT mean we are attracted to every person we know or every person in the world.
I am always so surprised that's scary for someone because I'd just talk to a partner if I was worried about a partner catching feelings or considering cheating. I wouldn't automatically think knowing/being friends with person of a gender they like is in itself a bad thing. Unless I knew they already had a crush or the person my partner was close to was an ex lol.
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2023.02.02 19:14 tomyland Jeffrey Dahmer’s Victim’s Mom Has Shared Her Outrage At Evan Peters’s Golden Globes Win After He Was Criticized For Not Acknowledging The Families In His Acceptance Speech

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2023.02.02 19:03 Paladin_MI Having trouble finding a label for myself

So recently I've been... Struggling isn't the right word, I think that implies negative connotatios, but kinda grasping at trying to accurately label myself. I've been using Demi but not sure it quite fits. On top of that, I'm trying to figure out if I'm actually just gay, or actually pan, but I know this isn't the place for that.
I'm fairly certain I fall on the ace spectrum. My last boyfriend was ace, and while we occasionally were intimate, it was few and far between and, honestly, that was fine. Instead of sex, we laid in bed and talked about nerd things and what not. He was honestly the best relationship I ever had.
But what I'm wrestling with is the fact I LIKE sex. I love being intimate with a partner or close friends. I get aroused, I go it solo regulary. But I don't CARE about sex, if that makes any sense? I could have sex never, once a month, or everyday and be equally content. I also feel much more at ease when sex is sorta like a bonus because we want to, instead of expected. If a romantic interest tells me theyre ace I feel excited.
Everything has always been based on my connection to someone. Like, I will find people cute or attractive, but it's never made me want to have sex with them. I want to have sex with them because they're smart or funny or we click really well. Basically "I don't like you because you're hot, you're hot because I like you."
Idk I'm mostly rambling but all of my friends are Allo and while they're supportive I don't really have anyone to talk it through with and I just wanted to get my thoughts out.
Thanks for reading my nonsense 😅
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2023.02.02 19:02 lithelylove My mum is straight up depressed cause I’m “behind” in life.

PSA: this post is not for you if you think “people who hate their mums are monsters.”
Okay so, basically the title.
She has been literally moping about for months now cause she’s depressed about how “behind” I am compared to her friends’ children. Also because she thinks my job is pathetic. (More on this end of post.)
For context, most (if not all) of them come from small town and/or religious backgrounds so life goals are completely not the same as mine.
The worst part is, one of those “peers” that she constantly compares me to was my middle/high school bully. My mum knows this but still chooses to associate with her and her parents in the most messed up ways I won’t elaborate here.
Now this situation has been a multi layer trigger for me.
  1. Reminder of past bullying.
  2. Severe anxiety over being negatively compared to my bully, showing that once again they’ve won.
  3. Blind rage over my mum’s “depression” cause I know it’s genuine. She genuinely feels bad for herself over me being behind even though I’m not. (This is really hard to explain but it’s similar to the boiling anger you feel when people genuinely feel sad that you’re gay so they sincerely pray for you. Kids of nparents will get it I think.)
  4. Anxiety of subconsciously wondering if I am actually behind even though I’m not.
  5. Residual trauma from sacrificing the last 5 years supporting my parents and sibling financially while my friends were having fun and working on their dreams.
  6. Still anxious over lifelong abuse from my mum.
Context: my dad lost his job and we were on the brink of homelessness. He still did his best by taking up odd jobs but it wasn’t enough. My mum instead of stepping up refused to get a job and spent my money irresponsibly. She also constantly berated me for not doing more the entire time and has a history of physical and emotional abuse towards me.
As to why I’m not actually behind: I have a cushy corp job that isn’t exactly glamorous but pays pretty well and earn well over the national average. Note that this was the job that helped me support my family of 4. Despite struggling with undiagnosed adhd/autism, I have a bachelor’s degree, have a big savings, and currently in the planning stages to get a start on all my dreams that I put on hold, including the fun stuff like travel and dating. I lived the life experience/hardship equivalent of 20 years in the past 5 and not a single one of my “peers” went through anything remotely as difficult.
I was really feeling positive with how far I’ve come despite playing life in extra hard mode and my mother is just being bizarrely inappropriate.
I didn’t have anyone I could talk to about this.
Originally posted on cptsd and immediately got downvoted sigh.
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2023.02.02 18:46 lithelylove My mum is straight up depressed cause I’m “behind” in life.

PSA: this post is not for you if you think “people who hate their mums are monsters.”
Okay so, basically the title.
She has been literally moping about for months now cause she’s depressed about how “behind” I am compared to her friends’ children. Also because she thinks my job is pathetic. (More on this end of post.)
For context, most (if not all) of them come from small town and/or religious backgrounds so life goals are completely not the same as mine.
The worst part is, one of those “peers” that she constantly compares me to was my middle/high school bully. My mum knows this but still chooses to associate with her and her parents in the most messed up ways I won’t elaborate here.
Now this situation has been a multi layer trigger for me.
  1. Reminder of past bullying.
  2. Severe anxiety over being negatively compared to my bully, showing that once again they’ve won.
  3. Blind rage over my mum’s “depression” cause I know it’s genuine. She genuinely feels bad for herself over me being behind even though I’m not. (This is really hard to explain but it’s similar to the boiling anger you feel when people genuinely feel sad that you’re gay so they sincerely pray for you. Kids of nparents will get it I think.)
  4. Anxiety of subconsciously wondering if I am actually behind even though I’m not.
  5. Residual trauma from sacrificing the last 5 years supporting my parents and sibling financially while my friends were having fun and working on their dreams.
  6. Still anxious over lifelong abuse from my mum.
Context: my dad lost his job and we were on the brink of homelessness. He still did his best by taking up odd jobs but it wasn’t enough. My mum instead of stepping up refused to get a job and spent my money irresponsibly. She also constantly berated me for not doing more the entire time and has a history of physical and emotional abuse towards me.
As to why I’m not actually behind: I have a cushy corp job that isn’t exactly glamorous but pays pretty well and earn well over the national average. Note that this was the job that helped me support my family of 4. Despite struggling with undiagnosed adhd/autism, I have a bachelor’s degree, have a big savings, and currently in the planning stages to get a start on all my dreams that I put on hold, including the fun stuff like travel and dating. I lived the life experience/hardship equivalent of 20 years in the past 5 and not a single one of my “peers” went through anything remotely as difficult.
I was really feeling positive with how far I’ve come despite playing life in extra hard mode and my mother is just being bizarrely inappropriate.
I didn’t have anyone I could talk to about this.
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2023.02.02 18:28 Significant_Grand802 WIBTA if I told my grandma that I'd rather have my friend's mom walk with me on my graduation?

this is my first reddit post, so please bear with me.
for some context, I'm a senior student, graduating this coming May. last year, my friend's mom and I already made plans on what to do when I graduate, she was the one that really treated me as her own, my mom and I aren't on great terms since I already cut her off from my life. I treat her like she's my own mom, and she treats me like I'm her son, and for the first few times we talked about my graduation, I thought she was just joking but she was serious because she knows about my situation. now, about my situation, I don't get along well with my family for various reasons, which means I usually get bullied inside and outside of the house. only person I'm close with is my brother, he knows all about what they do to me and used to help me with them, mainly because he's the only one on good terms with everyone from the family. he already knew about my plans on my graduation and he fully supports me because ever since I started hanging out with my friend in their house, he sees how happy I am when I get home. now, to my "family". one thing to know about us is that our family is kinda well known-ish in our city. which means their reputation is their second most prized possession. everything they do, it has to be carefully thought off, as to not "bring shame to the family name". which basically translates to them being strict with everything that concerns the family. I don't mind them being strict, but they take it to another level, from how I dress, to what I wanna take as a college course. normally that would be expected, but this is where they take it to the next level. when I do something that they don't approve of, they'd immediately berate me and call me names. I'm gay and a bit feminine with my actions, so I always here stuff about that. I always tell my grandma about what they do but all she does is brush me off, even if its already happening right in front of her. she'll just make up excuses and say that I should be thankful that they're "teaching" me on what to do properly. now, about the graduation, my friends' and I are looking forward to this because this would be the first time that I actually looked forward to an event that related to my studies, mainly because I lost the motivation to study since the family was overbearing about what my course should be. my friend's mom was very supportive of me and even gave me advice for the college course I'd like to pursue. I really look up to her and I really love her as if she's my own mom.

so, WIBTA if I told my grandma that I'd rather have my friend's mom walk me down on my graduation??

edit:
I would invite my brother, but he lives far from me and he's still in College so he doesn't have much. but he promised to celebrate with me when we see each other.

I live in the Philippines, and it's common for relatives to walk down with the students at their graduation
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2023.02.02 18:24 grayyy_cee sister wives dreams — anybody else have them after too many rewatches and time on this sub?

i’ll embarrass myself first.
i’ve been falling asleep to this show on a regular basis the last few months and hanging out on here a ton… and it finally happened. the other night i got caught in a loop of sister wives dreams that i couldn’t get out of. everything came back to the browns, all roads led to koyote pass (spelling intentional).
notable moments:
everyone was getting married but me, and all the older brown girls only wanted to be my sister’s friend and not mine because she agreed to divorce her actual husband and marry our (gay) cousin. all they did was talk about modest wedding dresses and completely ignore me.
one of my cousins and i kept taking road trips from nyc to visit the browns in a combination of utah and arizona. kody wanted to put everyone to work and said if you want to be part of the family you need to help out or you’re dead to me. i had to get robyn a present so i got her an anthropologie candle that looked like a real cake. kody and some rando flds elders talked to me about converting to plyg and warren jeffs was hiding under a table and no one believed me that he was there. he slunk out the window when kodys back was turned. i had to fly home from slc.
Please share your sisterwives dreams!!!
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2023.02.02 17:38 kingfwoofurs27 PT is also a part-time model....

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4734077-dps-friend-sent-photographs-of-me-to-dp-to-inf DP's friend sent photographs of me to DP to infer I am cheating 14 replies WhiteJoshsBiceps · Today 14:24
Please bear with me, this is a weird situation. It's so childish that I feel daft writing this but I needed an outlet for my frustrations. I'm really angry so I'm sorry if this is all garbled, I've tried to put it in some kind of order.
DP's friend - Jon - has always hated me and has always been convinced that I would cheat on DP.
Jon has recently moved into our neighbourhood.
Last weekend, I had a PT session in my local park (now Jon's local park too). My PT is martial arts so has quite a bit more contact than other PT activities. I mean, its not just a bloke shouting instructions from 2m away while you lift weights or do star jumps. It involves body contact, touching each other, being close etc.
I didn't know at the time but Jon saw me having my PT session. And he took photographs of it which he has now sent to DP with messages asking DP if he was happy with me behaving like that with a young male model (my PT is also a part-time model).
DP's at work but has sent me screenshots of what Jon has sent with a jokey message. Then he sent a follow up message saying it was a shit thing for Jon to do but that I look great 🤗
So DP's clearly not bothered. And he needn't be. There's nothing going on with my PT. I do absolutely love my PT for all kinds of reasons, and me and DP have a running joke about my PT being basically a perfect man. Me and PT have a great relationship for all kinds of reasons but there's absolutely nothing sexual going on.
But I'm absolutely livid. I can't complain too much about him taking photographs because we were in public. But he's clearly sent DP ones that could be misread (where me and PT are very close, touching, one where he's got his arm round my shoulders) and is trying to infer I'm doing something wrong. I'm not. And if I was, would I really do it in my local park? I know everyone in the park because I walk the dog there, I go for coffee at the cafe regularly with friends and I do PT in there. Not exactly the most discreet place for a quick bunk-up.
I plan to stay the fuck out of it, to let DP talk to Jon, to stay dignified, stay quiet. If I contact Jon, he'll read my anger as guilt. I will do. This is the right thing to do isn't it?
Thanks for reading, I just really to let off steam.
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WhiteJoshsBiceps · Today 14:42
Jon definitely isn't obsessed with me Grin
He's always hated me because he's always thought I will cheat on DP. He thinks this because I was dating someone else when me and DP got together and because I slept around and partied a lot when I was younger. In my defense, this was all when I was late teens/early 20s. Jon is a very quiet/sheltered person so has never been able to put these things down to youth misadventures.
He found out where I work out because we chatted about gyms/exercise/working out etc. when he visited a few weeks ago. And I just mentioned it in passing.
I don't think he's moved to the area to wage a war. Our area is very 'up and coming' so lots of people of his/our demographic are snapping up houses in the area.
I absolutely trust DP to tell Jon that their friendship is over.
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YesitsBess · Today 14:42
Jon is following you around a park, taking pictures and then implying to your partner that you are up to something and....he is OK with this?
No, sorry, I meant DP is clearly okay with the content of the pictures - he clearly doesn't think anything untoward is happening.
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AllTheWatersTurnedToClouds · Today 14:41
Yes my money is on Jon having a thing for your DP
Regardless, he's a twat
Shock You know, you might be on to something there. When I first met Jon I thought he was gay and had a little crush on DP.
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YesitsBess · Today 14:47
So he didn't just happen across this scene and decide to take photos (weird by itself) but he's actively stalking you from info you've given in passing in order to break up your marriage?
I would be deeply freaked out by this. And I don't scare easily.
I'm not sure if he deliberately set out to the park to stalk me. It's perfectly possible that he was just in the park at the time because its a cut through from one main road to another. But, even if that was the case - to stop and take pictures is just plain weird.
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Kissedbyfire1 · Today 14:51
Agree with this. Send him that meme of the stalker guy from Love Actually with a message saying “this you?”
Show quote history I love this. Jon's a weird guy, I'm not sure he'd have seen Love Actually.
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Justasec321 · Today 14:56
I would bet Jon is an envious person and that brings with it destruction.
He will drip drip drip and could eventually cause a crack between you and dp.
You write that you slept around a lot and "in my defense i was in my early 20s". That implies shame. Why? You were a young woman doing what young people do.
People like Jon pick up on that kind of stuff and turn it into something else.
Oh no, absolutely no shame here at all. I was just explaining that I was in my late teens/early 20s when I was cheating, many years ago and not a behaviour I'd engage in these days.
Go to post WhiteJoshsBiceps · Today 15:00
I do trust DP to drop Jon as a friend. They've known each other for years and years but they're not massively close. And DP will always put me first.
Go to post WhiteJoshsBiceps · Today 15:02
Dejavu23 · Today 14:57
How does Jon know how many people you slept with when you were younger?
Errrm. How shall I put this.... I had a bit of a reputation 😬
Jon doesn't know the exact number I don't know the exact number but he knows that it was a lot
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MrsDanversGlidesAgain · Today 15:06
It's perfectly possible that he was just in the park at the time because its a cut through from one main road to another. But, even if that was the case - to stop and take pictures is just plain weird
I could - just about - understand that he might have a go at dropping doubts in your DH's mind by mentioning oh so casually that you and the PT seemed pretty close and DH might want to be careful and watch you, given your 'reputation' - but taking pictures suggests more malice than that. It suggests to me that he's trying to get concrete evidence. even if he was just passing and saw you, it strikes me as him seeing a chance to PROVE what he's always thought.
Yeah, that was my feeling to. Like this is his 'told you so' moment. Bellend.
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cstaff · Today 15:05
@WhiteJoshsBiceps
On a slightly different note OP - looking at your user name - is white Josh and his biceps the gym instructor you were talking about earlier 😋
So imagine WhiJo but not clean-cut looking, not baby-faced looking, not 'nice boy' looking. Then double the hotness and you're half way there😜😂
Go to post WhiteJoshsBiceps · Today 15:14
I hadn't even thought about getting the police involved. I'm not sure I want to escalate to that yet but I absolutely hear you all about maybe doing so.
Thanks, BTW, for reading and commenting. I was just absolutely numb when I saw what he'd done but you're all helping me to sort out my thoughts Smile
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orangegato · Today 15:14
Jon is a misogynist cunt and needs putting in his place. How dare you have enjoyed yourself and slept around in your younger years. He’s judging you because he’s a soggy little creep, I bet he was one of those kids at school who’d grass on other kids cause he’s holier than thou. Your DH needs to dispose of him, imagine what he says about you and you DH let’s slide.
I really don't think Jon slags me off to DP. DP wouldn't let it slide.
In our early days, Jon always used to hint to DP that I was going to cheat. After a while and once me and DP got serious, DP told him to lay off and Jon did. In DP's mind, that was the issue resolved but I've always felt like Jon continued to hate me and be suspicious of me. I can't really put my finger on my I felt like he was suspicious. You know when you can just feel it.
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RaiseTheStakesAndMakeTheLastWordDuckhead · Today 15:17
What did your DP say to him?
I don't think he's replied. DP will wait until he's home and get my input too I think.
Go to post WhiteJoshsBiceps · Today 15:33
Jon's single. He was in a relationship for ages, maybe 10 years even. I still felt like Jon hated me throughout this time but he became a little bit more of a normal human. But then they split up and he's gone back to being a bit of a weirdo again.
He's got a job, yes.
I'm not sure has too many other friends. Him and DP are both quite solitary and insular people so neither has a big circle of friends. That's why I think they get on - they meet up a few times a year, nothing massive, no pressure to continually do things IYKWIM.
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